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How to Lose the Wait

How to Lose the Wait

Hosted by: Holly Toscanini

Welcome to How to Lose the ‘WAIT’—the podcast for women in midlife who are tired of living like their real life starts “later.” If you’ve been waiting for confidence, the perfect timing, the perfect body, the perfect...

Episodes

103. How to Stop Over-Giving in Relationships (Without Feeling Like a Bad Person)

Season #5 Episode #103

In this episode, Holly Toscanini discusses the emotional burden of being the default caretaker in relationships, particularly for women. She explores how this role is often unconsciously adopted and the hidden costs...
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102. Stop Self-Editing: The Unwaiting Rule for Visibility in Midlife

Season #5 Episode #102

If you’ve been feeling invisible in midlife, it might not be because you lack confidence—it might be because you’ve been self-editing. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini breaks down why smart,...
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101. Standing in your Brilliance with Kathy Kwiatkowski

Season #5 Episode #101

In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly sits down with Kathy Kwiatkowski—Licensed Mental Health Counselor, multidimensional healer,[...] Source
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100. Stop Starting Over: The Unwaiting Method to Turn Insight Into Real Change

Season #5 Episode #100

Holly Toscanini speaking about Unwaiting: why starting over provides relief but real change comes from one decision and one small action, encouraging listeners to stop living in “draft mode.” Source
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99. The Self-Trust Rule for 2026: Stop Making Decisions That Betray You

Season #4 Episode #99

As we step into a new year, the pressure to reinvent ourselves often looms large. But what if the real transformation lies not in starting over, but in cultivating a deeper relationship with ourselves? In this episode...
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98. Why New Year’s Resolutions Keep Smart Women Stuck (And What to Do Instead)

Season #4 Episode #98

New Year’s resolutions often keep smart women stuck because they’re built on the belief that you must “fix yourself” before you’re allowed to feel confident or start living. In this episode, Holly Toscanini explains...
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97. How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting

Season #4 Episode #97

How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting: Clarity, Courage, and Self-Trust Year-end reflection for midlife women: close 2025 with compassion and start 2026 with clarity, courage, and self-trust. Includes a guided ritual...
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96. How to Get Unstuck in Midlife: Tiny Pivots, New Habits, Real Momentum

Season #4 Episode #96

Feeling stuck in “someday mode” in midlife? Someday you’ll change careers. Someday you’ll feel confident. Someday you’ll finally do the thing you can’t stop thinking about. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’,...
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95. Choosing What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year

Season #4 Episode #95

What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year Before you set a single New Year’s resolution, it’s time for an emotional declutter. In this episode, Holly guides you through a step-by-step process to...
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94. How to Calm Your Inner Critic Fast!

Season #4 Episode #94

Go from Panicked to Poised in Just 3 Minutes Wish you had a confidence reset button for those “Who am[...] Source
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93. How to Stop Fixing Yourself

Season #4 Episode #93

Tired of “working on yourself” and still feeling like a project? This new episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’ is all about why real midlife growth isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about remembering who you are. Source
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92. Gratitude Without Guilt: Finding Joy When Life Isn’t Perfect

Season #4 Episode #92

Instead of weaponizing gratitude as “it could be worse,” Holly unpacks the difference between genuine appreciation and toxic positivity, and offers grounded, compassionate practices to help midlife women notice joy...
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